This is the second time, in my adulthood, that I have written myself a letter. The last time was Monday, February 15th, 2016. [If you want to read it you can go here: Part 1]. There, I give you instructions on how to do this exercise yourself.
For context, It’s a part of the Art of Silence course, a 3-day retreat, that is designed to take you beyond the noise and chatter – the “monkey mind” – and go within. It’s a conscious withdrawal from..well, everything. For three days I gave myself permission to keep all of my attention on myself and hold my energy within.
Before coming out of silence we went through this exercise of giving yourself 5 pieces of advice. Which I’m going to share with you here:
5 Pieces of Knowledge
[Note: I didn’t edit the following from its original form]
Sunday, March 5th, 2017
Art of Living Foundation Center
2401 15th St. N.W.
Washington, D.C. 20009
To myself – Ambrose Dior Wilson-Brown
#1. Enough is Enough
How much is enough? Enough is enough. How much can you want? I could want it all. Would “all” be enough? If you had all the money in the world, would that be enough? No.
Someone else has to have some too, or what would you buy with all that money?
If you had all the money no one would be able to produce anything. So enough is enough.
Enough is enough.
If you had no money, would you die? No. You would still be able to beg, borrow, and (forgive me) steal.
Someone somewhere is willing to share because – enough is enough.
#2. “How” is Not Your Job
We all have a job to do. When it comes to our biggest job, life, the “how” is not our responsibility. We are not the boss. As a “worker”, it is our job to stay focused on “why.” We have” yourself, the middleman (manager and the man/woman (boss). Each character has a job to do in own way to make life happen.
Again, our job is the “why.” Why can be called passion, but I prefer “focus” or even better “purpose.” We all have a purpose. It’s our job to figure that out. The managers are usually opportunities that arise. They come through people, places, and things. It’s their job to present the “how” for us. It’s our job to be aware and receive them.
Then, it’s the boss.
You can call it (g)od, universe, nature, or whatever you like. The “what” is ultimately out of our control. Most of us try to be the boss living from the outside in. Life is to be experienced from the inside out.
#3. Lust for Wonder
Do you know what you can’t tickle yourself? You also can’t surprise yourself.
Some people don’t like surprises, but everyone lusts for wonder. Why get up if every day is going to be like the rest?
Would you only watch movies when you knew the ending? No, you want to wonder. Wonder is a great part of life. We should all lust for wonder because we can’t make wonder for ourselves. So we should give it away to others.
A bouquet of flowers. A handwritten letter. A “boo” from behind a curtain.
Stay on your toes and you will be still be struck by wonder if you search for it.
#4. We Are All Children
There is this thing called “adulting” and most people say it with a loss of resistance. They have to “adult” today. As if it is such a drag.
Well, we are all children. What qualities of being an adult do children yearn?
…to be able to do stuff.
They are small, so they can think big.
They are weak, so they want power.
Am I right?
But don’t adults feel this way too? So are we really adults?
Now, what qualities do adults remember about being a child?
Laughter, playfulness being taken care of…children are free, right?
We are all children.
#5. Unplug to Reset
What can’t be fixed with a momentary unplug? Nothing. Not even humans.
There is a lot we can do to recharge. Things that recharge, rejuvenate, or help us recover are plentiful.
But every once in awhile, being fully charged is not enough. We need to reset. To reset, you must unplug yourself.
From what? From whatever you can.
- Family and friends
It clears everything out. Putting you back to your default settings with more room to be, have, and do more.
What are 5 pieces of advice or knowledge you live by?
I’d love to hear to from you.
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